DEAR ABBY: I’m locked in to be hitched to a brilliant lady who has a 6-year-old little girl with her ex. They offer joint authority.
His controlling nature was a central point in her choice to end their marriage. Indeed, even now, subsequent to being separated from over two years, he attempts to control her life. One route is by demanding photos of them three at each capacity where they are on the whole present. First day of school, graduations, and so on., he must have pictures taken of him alongside my fiancee and their little girl as though they are as yet one major, glad family.
He’s currently drawn in to somebody too. I can just expect his fiancee must discover these “not a family” pictures as peculiar as my fiancee and I do.
The reason we haven’t shut him down when he demands these photos is that we think possibly it is a decent thing for her little girl to have pictures of herself with her mother and father. Be that as it may, we fear each occasion since we realize he will anticipate this. Will it do the girl any damage to stop him whenever he begins demanding this inexorably ungainly circumstance?
DEAR PICTURE: Because this practice made your fiancee uncomfortable, she should have put a stop to it when it began. She should not do anything that makes her uncomfortable. A way to deal with it now without roiling the waters would be to wait until you and your fiancee are married — and her ex and his fiancee are married — and make it a group photo of the entire blended family from then on.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I will celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary on the seventh of next month. My brother was divorced after five years of marriage and is now getting remarried by a justice of the peace. His “bride” is also divorced, and this will be a second marriage for both of them. They initially planned to be married on the third of the month but changed the date to the seventh saying they couldn’t find another date that worked.
Last time I checked, there were 31 days in the month. Our parents don’t understand why I’m upset that my brother plans to marry on my wedding anniversary date. I feel this is my special day, one that I have earned after 22 years of marriage. My brother and his fiancee could easily pick another date. Am I being petty, or is my brother unreasonable? — THAT’S MY DAY IN MICHIGAN
DEAR DAY: I’m glad you asked. You are making a mountain out of a molehill. You don’t “own” the seventh of next month.
Rather than looking to be offended, you should be hoping that your brother and his fiancee have the same good fortune and years of happiness that you and your husband have enjoyed. Their anniversary won’t impinge on yours.
The most meaningful wedding gift you could offer them would be to wish them every happiness on this special day — for all of you — and stop looking for drama where there isn’t any. Celebrate your anniversary next month at a time that works best for you and your husband.
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